But What Does a Birth Doula DO?
Photo by Beth Skogen Photography
DONA International published an article in 2018 celebrating Mother’s Day in which the kids of doulas told what they thought doulas do… “Something with vaginas. You help babies,” said Uriah, age 9. “Doulas just sit there,” said Lyndi, also 9. “Mom, seriously. Don’t make me try to explain it,” said Aidan, age 18.
Some doulas even debate what we should “do”, saying we should aim to be more of a “be-la” than a “do-la”. That it’s not our place to advocate or give advice.
I believe being a good birth doula is about striking a nice balance between being a witness and a guide/comforter/advocate when needed.
In the words of prior Align Clients, here it is in a nutshell:
“Provided information on all the different options without judgement, and made us feel totally supported in our birth choices,” said Elise.
“Wisdom beyond my expectations, comfort when I was nervous, anxious or stressed,” said Megan.
“So helpful- just knowing I could ask her any questions and turn to her for unconditional support,” said Kasha.
“Definitely the calm and positivity we needed,” said Tifany.
Photo by Beth Skogen Photography
“Instinctively provided emotional and physical support throughout the entire process...took an enormous amount of pressure off my husband by teaching him how to support me as well…remain both perfectly present and non-intrusive,” said Kelly
“An essential part of my emotional recovery…offered me a space to express the intense emotions that had been caught in the fog that follows childbirth. The simple act of showing up at my door in the early postpartum time made this phase feel less isolating and more bearable,” said Kelly
We doulas have the honor of witnessing and supporting families through one of the most important and transformative events of their lifetime. While there are certainly tangible things we can “do” (that help a lot), it’s often more about making very challenging parts feel easier, and joyful moments sweeter simply by “holding space” for you and your family. At a time when many people feel out of their element or out of control, feeling held by an expert in birth, that you trust and have built a relationship with— who is there purely to look out for you and your best interest—can make ALL the difference.
As for what doulas do in the postpartum time…. that’s a whole other topic- look for that post soon!
Written by Angie Traska, coordinator of Align Doula Services, providing intuitive, attentive doula support that aligns with you. Serving Madison, WI and the surrounding areas.
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